Self Help: This Is Your Chance to Change Your Life Hardcover – December 31, 2024

GLOWING... In Self Help: This Is Your Chance to Change Your Life, Gabrielle Bernstein offers a deeply compassionate and accessible guide to healing from within, using the powerful framework of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. This book is a heartfelt invitation to reconnect with the deeper Self—the calm, compassionate, and wise presence within us all—and to build a more loving relationship with the parts of ourselves that have long been misunderstood, exiled, or shamed.With warmth, vulnerability, and spiritual insight, Bernstein shares her personal journey of transformation. She brings to life the IFS concepts of protectors, managers, firefighters, and exiles through her own experiences with addiction, perfectionism, codependency, and self-criticism. What makes this book so moving is not just the psychological framework, but Bernstein’s raw honesty and the grounded spiritual practice she weaves throughout.At the heart of the book is the “four-step check-in process,” a deceptively simple but life-changing tool for turning inward with curiosity, compassion, and care. This method helps readers not only manage triggers but also begin the process of internal healing and integration. Bernstein’s approach is practical, spiritual, and trauma-informed—she emphasizes that deeper trauma work should be done with a trained IFS practitioner, yet empowers readers to begin forming a trusting relationship with their inner world in daily five-minute check-ins.With endorsements from luminaries such as Dr. Richard Schwartz (the founder of IFS), Dr. Wayne Dyer, and Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday, Bernstein’s book emerges as both a personal testimony and a transformational roadmap. It’s especially suited for spiritual seekers who are ready to ground their healing in emotional reality and psychological safety.In a world saturated with self-help platitudes, Self Help stands out by inviting readers into real intimacy with themselves—not just affirmations, but integration. Bernstein doesn’t promise quick fixes; instead, she offers a path to genuine self-leadership and inner peace.

The media could not be loaded. Don’t hesitate to add Self Help to your cart! I’ve been following Gabby for 15 years and I’ve read pretty much all of her books and if you’ve never read a Gabby book start with this one! The way she explains really complex parts of the self that are related to trauma and shame is easy to understand, and the processes and tools in this book are very realistic to implement…because Gabby guides you through very clearly. I’ve been reading this book and putting the principles into practice and I’m seeing results. Today a friend tried to shame me today because he made a reference to a show that I had never watched, and then he rolled his eyes when I didn’t get it. In the past my protector part would have clapped back or gotten so defensive—I took a breath and asked him for more clarity because I didn’t understand what he was talking about. And I spoke up for myself and confidently admitted I had never seen the show and told him rolling his eyes made me feel bad. This is something that in the past, I would’ve gotten really defensive about or pretended that I got the reference or beat myself up about later. Instead I remained in SELF ENERGY! I got a text later from another friend being like “wow you really stuck up for yourself without a tone, which made me realize maybe I can speak up to friends when they are minimizing me.” I told him to get Self Help by Gabby Bernstein.I’m telling you, using the four step check in process, I am able to recognize things for what they are and have compassion for the ways my protectors have tried to protect me in the past. Overtime using this process, Gabby promises that we will start to rewire our neural pathways so that there’s a greater space between stimulus and response with how we react going forward. This book is a game changer. In fact, if you’ve never read a Gabby book start with this because this is where the work is really at because so many times my emotional reactions to things (which I’m learning are my protectors) are what get in the way of me really being me. 2025 is all about self led energy. Gabby explains the tools really well and uses great examples from her own life or lives of other people to show how the work can work. What I particularly love about this book is it has tools and methods that anyone can start to use immediately. I can’t wait to see where my life and my emotional reactions are in three months if I keep putting these tools into practice. This is the type of book that can change your life forever. Once you see yourself as a family of parts, you can heal from there! Trust me, buy it….

This book helps me understand my habits I can’t seem to stop until I started checking in to identify why these habits or triggers developed in the first place to somehow protect me. The exact part when I thought how do I use this with my daughter, Gabby wrote this title is SELF HELP NOT HOW TO HELP EVERYONE ELSE! I LAUGHED SO HARD!! I took my two months to gradually go through this book by listening via audible and following along with my kindle version. My life is forever transforming

This book is easy to read and offers practical, insightful tools—especially around inner child work. It helped me become more compassionate with myself and better understand not only what I’ve been through but also what others might be experiencing.This isn’t a one-time read. While it’s categorized as a self-help book, I believe it’s best explored with the support of a therapist or in a safe, collective healing space. Tapping into hidden trauma or long-buried pain can bring up a lot, and without support, it might lead to retraumatization.I strongly believe in the power of inner healing. We all have the ability to heal ourselves—when we’re willing to reflect, uncover the root causes, and approach it all with self-awareness and self-acceptance.