Girls of Riyadh Paperback – June 24, 2008

This is really a fun book to read. If you are not familiar with the Saudi culture, which differs tremendously from other Arab cultures, this book will give you a glimpse of it. Girls in Saudi Arabia are brought up with different principles from girls in other countries of the world. For example, virginity must be guarded at all cost, not necessary because the girl feels it is her moral and religious duty to do so, but because no man would marry her if she wasn't a virgin...at least this is the theory.I first heard of the stories, which were transmitted through emails at the time, through friends when I used to work in Riyadh. At the time, it was the gossip of Riyadh, but I never was interested in gossip, so I paid no attention. I never chatted on the internet in the first place, except a few times on AOL with close friends, and I viewed this practice as a total waste of time. I couldn't understand the kick people got out of speaking to complete strangers whom they were unlikely to ever meet, and who were probably lying through their teeth. How would one really know whether the person online is male or female, or a hermaphrodite for that matter? Is the person lying about his or her age, looks, education, nationality etc...? My conclusion was that chatting was a complete waste of time. It was better to socialize with people in the physical world.I admit! I was wrong! Totally wrong! Having read this book, I now understand the world of chatting better. Saudi Arabia is a society where women and men are forbidden to mix. Even in restaurants, there are sections just for single men and others for families only. Movie theatres are forbidden because of the fear of having both males and females, God forbid, in the dark!!! It doesn't matter that the country is corrupt, that innocent men and women are put in jail because of their political or social views; never mind the fact that Moslems all over the world are being unjustly killed by imperialist countries; never mind all that...the important thing is that men and women don't mix and women (and men too) remain virgins. This is the number one priority of the government, and Saudi Arabia has even special police to enforce this. A woman caught with a man is a trip straight to jail, with a phone call to her father and public humiliation. See now the difference in upbringing of Saudi women compared to Western women?Back to internet chatting. How can girls and boys meet in Saudi, and get to know each other? You guessed it: the internet. The internet offered the Saudi society a way of meeting girls (and boys) that they would otherwise be unable to meet. And thus start the scandals...to some; to others they are not scandals at all but simply Saudi girls living their life and doing nothing wrong.Here's an article that appeared in a Saudi newspaper that best describes what this book is all about: "Eminent national newspapers are writing about a prevailing uproar here and behind it is an anonymous young woman who sends an e-mail every Friday to a large number of internet users in Saudi Arabia. In these e-malls, she tells the stories of her four female friends, Gamrah AI-Qusmanji, Sadeem AI-Horaimli, Lamees Jeddawi and Michelle AI-Abdulrahman. The girls belong to society's "velvet class," an elite whose behavior is normally kept hidden to all but themselves. Each week, the writer reveals new and thrilling developments, leading her ever-widening circle of eager readers to await Friday noon prayers breathlessly. Every Saturday morning, government offices, meeting halls, hospital corridors and school classrooms metamorphose into arenas for debate about the latest e-mail. Everyone weighs in. There are those who support this young woman and those who object to her. There are those who believe that what these girls are doing is perfectly natural (and also is no secret) and there are others who boil with rage at the revelation of what they consider to be the excesses that are going on around them in our conservative society. Whatever the outcome, there is no doubt whatsoever that these strange and unusual e-mails have created a furor in our society, which has never before experienced anything like this. It is clear that these emails will continue to furnish fertile material for exchange and debate for a long time to come, even after the e-mails cease to appear." (p. 101-102).The author says, "Frankly, I did not anticipate all of this flurry, all of this back-and-forth, around my modest little e-mails! A number of you ask how I conceived of this project. It all started in my mind about five years ago in 1999, that is, around the time when the story of my friends, as I am writing it to you and for you now, started. I didn't do anything to turn this idea into a reality until very recently, however. What got me going was that I saw my brain's capacity to hold anything reaching DISK FULL, The time had come to squeeze out the sponge of my mind and my heart, to really wring out that sponge so that I could absorb something new." (p. 75).The author further adds, "I heard that King Abd AI-Aziz City (internet provider company) is trying to block my site to dam up the channels of communication and ward off malicious acts, scandalous deeds and all causes of corruption or evil. I know that most of you know a thousand ways to get into blocked sites. But I just might die of electrocution if this blockage happens before I can empty out (and load onto you) the charges--positive and negative--l carry in my chest, which have refused to balance each other out to neutral inside of me. I only ask for a small space on the World Wide Web to tell my stories through. Is that too much to ask?" (p. 82).The book is full of funny anecdotes, and the author's writing style is both elegant and stylish...and let's not forget sincere! Consider the following excerpt, "Brother Adel-who, I will hazard a guess, is a statistician, sent me a message criticizing my e-mails for being of varying lengths and not symmetrical like the hems of dresses in vogue this year. Adel says that in order for the lengths of my e-mails to be even, they must show evidence of natural distribution. According to him, natural distribution means that 95 percent of the data contained therein will center around the mean (taking into consideration of course the standard deviation), while the percentage of data outside the area of normal distribution on both sides of the mean does not exceed 2.5 percent in either direction, such that the sum total of standard deviation is 5 percent. Shoot me!" (p. 208-209).There is beautiful love poetry from Nizar Qabbani in this book. I have heard of this poet before, but never read any of his books. The quotes the author used of Nizar Qabbani (that left my body in shivers) made me go to amazon.com and order the two books of Nizar Qabbani that are sold online: `Arabian Love Poems' and `On Entering the Sea: The Erotic and Other Poetry of Nizar Qabbani'.Will this book appeal to all readers? If you find yourself identifying with this book, you will love it. If you are unfamiliar with Arab culture and especially Saudi culture, you might not understand the psychology of the characters. In this case, either you will find it fascinating and informative to learn about a new and totally alien culture, or you will just not understand it, and thus not enjoy this book. Not everybody likes eating broccoli or understands its health benefits. For example, a newly married bride on her first night is busy in the bathroom preparing herself for her husband. When she gets out of the bathroom, eager to please her husband (and herself), she finds him fast asleep. I found this hilarious and just thinking of this scene later that day made me almost fall out of my treadmill. But many western readers will not understand this scene, for they will not grasp the psychology at play in such a scene. Here's a girl saving her virginity for this one night alone; a girl who was told all her life that sex was taboo; a girl who has had very limited contact with guys throughout her upbringing; a girl who probably learnt about sex from her married friends. What a bummer! Replace now the characters of this scene with western characters, let's say John and Jude, and this scene would appear normal, and the reader would not give it a second thought. A western reader might thus miss the flavor of this book and might not appreciate it.I loved this book and rank it as the best novel and memoir I have read this year. This author is very talented and I can't wait to read her next novel.

Girls of RiyadhBy:Rajaa AlsaneaA book I couldn’t help but continuously read until every last word had been enjoyed. The people, the stories, the new understanding that comes from a new book is delightful throughout, ‘Girls of Riyadh.’Set in both Saudi Arabia and the United States, at present day, so many intriguing and circling stories which just begin to touch the surface of what life may be like for a non-native English speaker, in America and the girls who grow up in Saudi Arabia.With a soap opera air and young adult flair, Rajaa Alsanae keeps you interested and once you become comfortable in one story, she brings your attention back again with another drama. I had not heard of her e-mails and the controversy surrounding the gossip of Riyadh, but I am so glad I opened this book to find out. I am a big fan of journal keeping and journal reading. This book opened each chapter with what seemed like a confessional and I quite enjoyed that.I have also found a new fondness for the poetry of Nizar Qabbani. Worthy of several mentions and footnotes, I grew to enjoy the author’s references sometimes more than the drama of Riyadh.With this book I’ve discovered the difference of Saudi culture from other parts of the Arab world as well as the obvious notion that culture, what is expected of the individual and their families, their religion, their attire, are all separate, but also intertwined in a beautiful and unique way. Because of these interesting intersectionalities, I enjoyed this book very much.This book was not originally published in the western world, but growing popularity in the Middle East created a hunger for the story in America. This book does an important job here in America, and that is to show how truly similar our day to day lives, love lives, school lives, and lives as women are related.Several hypocrisy’s within Saudi culture, which affect these women profoundly and differently are expelled within these chapters. These seemingly elusive constraints and pressures, which are shown through Saudi women’s lives, certainly reflect on American women’s lives within our culture today. Certain expectations for women, for marriage, appearance, religion, and more, are echoed throughout the pages of ‘Girls of Riyadh.’The stories and relationships in ‘Girls of Riyadh’ which tend to be seen as shallow or a bit silly and awkward, rather than momentous or serious, show us a side rarely discussed today- the women’s side. What it must be like, look like, feel like, to live in Riyadh, to be a woman in Saudi, to be a woman in Islam.You may purchase here: www.amazon.com or [...]

'Girls of Riyadh' tells a story about a group of four university friends as they try to understand what happiness is about and how it's found. The girls are not 'typical Saudis': they're from upper middle class families (each with its own history) and of varied backgrounds. They all suffer from the curse of 'dreaming', dreaming about love, about romance, about professional success. In their daily, rather trivial lives concerned with make up, hair style, dress, they can be off-putting. They are, nonetheless, very real, trapped in a society that spreads quicksand to thwart the least deviation from 'the way things are done'.The book is not the best example of Arabic literature, perhaps, but it is a very readable story about the mine field that young Saudis--men as well as women--must negotiate if they are to be considered part of Saudi society. None is a particular hell-raiser; all want to conform and be accepted. But life has a way of making dreams come not-quite-true, as in all cultures.If you're looking for titillating sex scenes, don't bother looking in this book. While sex--both hetero- an homosexual--makes an appearance, it is as chaste as in a Jane Austen novel.I do recommend the book for those who would try to understand how Saudi culture and society put limits on the acceptable and the way young Saudis try to navigate those currents while heading for their own fulfillment.