Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone and Exercises for Recovery Paperback – January 23, 2019

As the adult child of a narcissistic father and a mental health therapist, I can say unequivocally this is the most comprehensive, helpful, complete guide to understanding my own upbringing and my healing, and how to work with those who share in this plight. Arabi writes in clear, easy to understand language, and covers aspects of being in relationships with those who are narcissistic, that I have not found in other books. Her guidance on healing and exercises to begin practicing are so helpful and right on the money. I deeply resonate with the material, and I highly recommend it!

I have read a number of books on NPD. While each has its merits, Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists is exceptional. It is probably the most comprehensive book I have read on the subject, and covers narcissist traits, symptoms experienced by Adult Children of Narcissists like myself, and most importantly, exercises for self-growth, unraveling the deep emotional wounds and healing. If you have ever felt alone in your struggle, reading this will change that. There is an entire chapter dedicated to survey responses from those who have experienced narcissist abuse. Can’t recommend this book enough. Thank you to Ms. Arabi for sharing your brilliant work with those of us who have a great need for this material.

I stumbled across this book by chance. And I’m glad. I recommend it to anyone trying to spread their beautiful wings and break free from the false feeling of guilt, shame, self-blame, unworthiness, etc.It might help you understand if the root of your misfortunes and mental burden is hidden deep in your childhood, and learn about your superpowers. Do you have people in your life who instead of lifting you up, downgrade you? Do you feel that you have to constantly prove that you are worthy? Good news—you are worthy! Read the book if that’s your case. It will help you spot the signs of narcissism and give you “the power to observe the toxic actions of others from a detached perspective. When we are allowed to observe the chaos from a place of calm observation, we can then better look for solutions rather than continuing to feed into the problem.”The author highlights the necessity to set healthy boundaries with mentally immature parents, and sometimes even to say “goodbye” to protect your physical, emotional, psychological, and social well-being. I agree with her message to not allow hate and evil thoughts make your heart bitter. Whatever you have been through, be more self-compassionate, and show compassion to others, because God is love, and you are His child, and you must honor what honors God. And this theme is much better covered in the book “Good Boundaries and Goodbyes” by Lysa Terkeurs —I sincerely recommend it!“But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven.” Christ Jesus, Lord and Savior

Love this book has helped me a lot

I am the son of a narcissistic mother. This book described so well my experiences, and the personality traits on both sides. I've read other books on the subject and while they were good, this is the gem in my opinion. I am working thru the healing ideas now and finding emotional peace. Arabi simply hit home and connected with me.

I spent 10 years trying to fix my problems on my own, because I thought that there was something wrong with me as a person, that I was defective. I never understood how deep the problem really was until I read this book. This book motivated me so much, I was able to both accept responsibility for what was mine and to stop obsessing over and trying to fix what was never mine to deal with in the first place. It helped me to realise that I didn't have to fix it alone, and that I wasn't weak for needing help to fix things.This book taught me to set boundaries, and doing so allowed me enough space that I was able to get into therapy with an empathetic, trauma specialised professional. I was able to avoid the dangerous and negative therapists that are out there, the types of invalidating people I have run into in the past. Those negative experiences kept me from trying to find someone better, but this book helped me to try again.Therapy is what gave me the space to make the greatest progress, and without this book I never would have made it there.I not only read this book, I gave it to a sibling, and they passed it on to another friend. I also bought another copy for a different relative. I definitely, whole heartedly recommend this book, especially if you are from a similar cultural background as the author.

This book provides a ton of detail and great information. I found this book very beneficial in my life.

I just started reading this book and already I can tell how well written and researched it is. I’m looking forward to reading the whole thing. I wanted to post pictures of the table of contents and the introduction because I thought it would be helpful to others.