F*ck Feelings: One Shrink's Practical Advice for Managing All Life's Impossible Problems

This book accomplishes what few “self-help” books do in that it is actually helpful. The authors take a realistic look at dealing with feelings. Finding contentment and compromise with feelings rather than giving into them fully is recommended. This book helped me a great deal and I fully recommend it to anyone I can.

Dr. Bennett and his daughter have delivered the most powerful self-help book I have ever read, They identify almost every relationship you would be in and insightfully explain how to successfully navigate each one. The relationships include marital, dating, bosses, co-workers, friends, employees, supervisees, in-laws, and myriad others in which you may find yourself mired. They don't say others are to blame and you're innocent, rather, all relationships are fraught with complexity so what's the best way to succeed or at least cope. They systematically lay out what the problems may be in each situation, then state how you wish it could be, then how it really is, then how you wish you have reacted or replied, then what is the most realistic and healthy way for you to respond, especially in toxic relationships. Basically, they advise to not act on your immediate feelings but to act in your own best healthy interest. They don't encourage selfishness, rather, how to keep a healthy self-care in situations and with people over whom you have no control. Their best advice is how to deal with angry people. The writing tones alternate among serious, blithe, hilarious, irreverent, with smartly-placed foul language that most of us use under our breaths when faced with stupidity. My healthy coping skills have improved 100%. It doesn't make me a better person but a person better able to live well. Buy the book and proudly carry it in public. You'll meet the most interesting people that way. It's better than buying a dog and walking it in order to meet people.

Unique. Great diet book, actually. Simple diet recommended by this book: don't eat Crisco. And it turns out that a lot of things are Crisco. Other times called "frosting," as in, "don't eat your weight in frosting and expect to be be trim and in shape." Eating Crisco, and everything like Crisco, isn't a good diet plan. But never eating anything like Crisco, that's a good plan. Funny book. Lots of humor--the kind of humor which is all too true. In addition to no Crisco, the authors apply this same kind of idea to feelings. Life is hard at times. Get used to it. And don't get focused on feelings or you'll be less and less happy. Instead, accept that things can be really hard and get out and do good anyway. Good read.

This book is not for the person who is looking for a big warm supportive hug. I am too old and realistic for big warm hugs and gentle, sweet encouragement. This book will give you the truth about how bad relationships, impossible work situations, financial insecurity and horrible relatives/people seem to continuously affect your life. It lays the facts out clearly and helps you plan how to get through the misery and cope effectively. I go back to this book again and again. The author is a MD/Psychiatrist not a celebrity or TV shrink. He understands the limitations of both talk and SSRI drug therapy. He has been in practice for a long time. The truth I got from this book can be summed up as: 1. See the problem for what it is... 2. Accept the problem and how much of it can actually be solved or changed... 3. Get a plan in your mind for handling it the best you can without feeling like a failure (because you are not)... and then MOVE on with your life as honestly as you can. The book worked for me. Good luck.

As a psychotherapist with 30 years experience I liked the basic approach- sometimes it's time to stop overthinking and just accept and move on. But this isn't the right approach every time or for everyone and he doesn't recognize that. Some of his examples of "you can't expect to get this" are things my clients have been able to get. Some of his other "factual real-life" promulgations are likewise wrong. His agenda of being controversial leads him to too much black and white thinking and that skews his view of what the reality actually is. The book is good for challenging some assumptions about what therapy should look like and what it can do, but be careful in applying it that you don't become TOO accepting and forego changes that act an be made.

It is refreshing for an author to have a sense of humor and yet provide raw, rational and actually solid methods on how to move forward with one's life. After all, we only have one to live and to be honest ~ if you cannot jump in and take a chance for yourself and the happiness you seek (which is what living is about) then you won't understand this book. I really appreciate the "calling out" of: if you want to get on with change, you really have to make that choice. Time is precious and we all work hard for our good days and hope for as many years of well-being. Well written, humor is a great way to see past the bs and look after yourself.

This may be the most important book I have ever bought, for my personal happiness. I come from a long line of mentally ill people and had the good luck to not to be very mentally ill myself, but I gave birth to a severely mentally ill person. I tried every heroic trick my whole life to "help" those I loved and of course, "failed". This book has helped me get some personal psychic peace at age 70. Of course, all my self-sacrificing efforts had no effect on the course of the illnesses my loved ones suffered or the awful things they did. My efforts just distracted me from my own life and happiness and values. I am able to pat myself on the back and say, "Good job", since studying the logic in this book. Of course, I recommend it, though I doubt everyone will be ready to see the reasonableness of the approach. I hope nobody has to wait until they are 70 years old to get the point. BTW, I don't find this book to be particularly "funny". But the humour hones in on the part of my ego where it needs to go. I don't find it to be offensive, either. It is an odd thing how the few words of profanity actually seem to help my brain undertand the point, especially when couched in what might be considered humorous content. If you object to profanity, just look away.

Good read, practical advise, just deal with it attitude. This is a deconstruction of the Serenity Prayer; acceptance, wisdom, and fortitude. Reminds one we are all human, all suffering and broken, yet survivors. None of the self esteem nonsense of comparing oneself to another or how you should feel, but acceptance of what life is: a journey. Just like a long hike there are trials and travails as well as smooth trail to get to the top you push on. Just be happy you are still on the journey you ungrateful bastard.

Utile, divertente e illuminante! Di facile lettura, molto concreto. È un libro semplice anche se tecnico da leggere, magari assieme al proprio terapeuta.

It was a great book covering many different possibilities. Some of which really resonated with me. There were times I could not put the book down. It has certainly helped ground me again after difficult times. It will help me in the future deal with difficult delimmas. It is also very funny ... Some of the letter examples I could identify with directly. It made me feel that I am not alone with my problems as their are others that have had similar experiences.

This book was provided by a company called Wordery through Amazon.I have not finished reading it yet,but what I have read has been a real eye-opener in terms of self-help books.

The hardcover has very good quality! Fits nicely on my bookshelf. Worth the read!

This is the best book I’ve ever encountered for grounding yourself in reality despite difficulties. It has helped me a lot, many times.