Yell Less, Love More: How the Orange Rhino Mom Stopped Yelling at Her Kids - and How You Can Too!: A 30-Day Guide That Includes: - 100 Alternatives to ... Steps to Follow - Honest Stories to Inspire

Approachable, engaging, compassionate. These three words sum up this book. It's a thin book that is designed to be read in 5 minute segments daily for a month. At the end of the month, you should have a handle on your yelling. Sheila is raw and honest, sharing stories and situations many would be too ashamed to admit. By sharing her battle and challenge with yelling with us, she inspires and encourages, and leaves you with a sense that Yes You Can: You can Yell less, Love More.This isn't a book about discipline. This is a book about changing your own fundamental make-up, forcing you to accept and embrace that yelling is really about you, not them. By shifting the locus of control to the self, by admitting what you can't control or change, you can be empowered to spark the changes that can and will lead you to Yelling Less and Loving more. It will also force you to problem solve your environment, learning how to prevent, prevent, prevent.My only con for this book is the con of all books on parenting: if parents had the proper care and feeding they need, proper self-care and me time,if parenting didn't require that you run on an empty tank, many of the problems parents face (like yelling) wouldn't exist. If we had enough helping hands around, most of us wouldn't find ourselves beyond frustrated, beyond capacity, beyond ability to just love. Sheila does a fairly good job in helping you find self-care approaches to get to loving more, but I wish there was a more explicit and honest admission: life with young kids can be a living hell of exhaustion that can even lead the most gentle of spirits to yell. As kids get older, it does get easier. Sometimes time itself is necessary for the yelling Less and loving more to become a true reality.I say this because I first found The orange Rhino blog when I was pregnant with my third child. My other kids were 4 and under, and I was one exhausted momma. I tried her online challenge but I did not have the strength, energy or time. I was so far on empty that real change wasn't possible. I then tried her book challenge when the book came out. I had a newborn at home. Sleep? what's that? Me with no sleep is not a pretty picture. Remember those anti-drug commercials from the 90s that said,"this is your brain, your brain on drugs" and then showed a cracked egg in a pan? Well, that's me with no sleep: all broken apart, barely functioning. I didn't have 5 minutes in the morning to read the book. I didn't have 10 minutes to then work on triggers. I did work on not yelling, and I was mostly good (save for when I PMS'd or was going crazy due to lack of sleep), but I didn't have the proper headspace to commit to a full fledged no yell challenge.Flash forward. My youngest is now 2.5. I am getting sleep. i am exercising consistently. I am going out with friends. I finally have the time and space necessary to do the self-work required to Yell Less and Love more.This is my long-rounded way of saying, this book will help you learn to Yell Less and Love more, but it can only do so much. Environmental conditions (not having chemical and hormonal fluctuations due to sleep deprivation, for instance) need to be such that you can change. But this book also shows you that change is possible, that you can indeed Yell Less,Love More, and it's a practical, easily accessible guide in doing so.

I am a mom that suffers from military PTSD. It’s like a noose around your neck let me tell ya. PTSD folks produce more adrenaline and our fight or flight is usually in fight. We usually yell by default. I have NEVER had a therapist even suggest that I even try to not yell. It was always assumed that it was a symptom and therefore something my family would have to understand and I would have to hate myself for. NOPE! I don’t yell anymore. My child is gifted and gifted at pushing buttons. She is hyper and needy but I do not yell. I am not limited by my diagnosis and I am not doomed to ruin my daughter’s life. Do I get upset? Yes! I do not yell, I do not feed that fire. I protect my family. One month down (which I thought was impossible) a lifetime to go. I just survived a Christmas in a house full of 16 people 10 were kids ranging from 1-14. It was hell but I did not yell.**UPDATE**2yrs later. After passing this book on to another mom that needed support, I need to re-purchase this for myself (full disclosure.) We adopted a 4yr old son from foster care and I need to re-focus on not yelling again. Two ADHD kids in the home, one with possible PTSD from trauma that I need to walk him through to manhood with my husband. I have all the faith in the world that this book will do it again. FYI, the mom that needed support that I gave my copy to seems to be practicing more self-care and her kids seem more relaxed as a whole. I am a much better and whole mother and kinder to myself when I put the Orange Rhino into play. I still recommend this.

Amazing resource for loving more and yelling less - makes a daunting, shamefull problem into a manageable goal with a plan - and it works! Sheila a.k.a. the Orange Rhino shares her humanness, her mistakes, her honest self awareness. Her journey is an inspiration! She has helped me realize that much of the time, my kids are just being kids and I am the one who needs more discipline as a parent. But not because I'm a bad parent - rather because I'm a good, loving parent who needs to learn about how to love more and yell less! Sheila has helped me forgive myself and just keep trying, one day at a time. I feel like the Orange Rhino is a "mommy whisperer" - she sits on my shoulder and offers me guidance and support all day long! And, I can read her book cover to cover, or use the table of contents, or open to any page depending on my mood and needs in the moment and I'll get helpful suggestions and support! Definitely one of the best inspirational parenting books of 2014 with two special bonuses: it isn't just for parents, but also for grandparents, teachers, etc. and it isn't just about yelling less - it is about loving more in all relationships, particularly the ones that are challenging and mean the most to us. Having read this book, I am definitely having more "Orange Rhino Moments" of yelling less and loving more.

This book may have saved my relationship with my son. After my ex-wife died suddenly and I became a full-time single parent, my formerly relaxed and relatively yell-free style parenting changed as the stresses upon me multiplied. Is the book silly sometimes? Yes. But, it is also full of good practical advice, and tips that may really help you. I think the best thing about the book is that it commits you to a specific goal (not yelling for a year) that you know will be quite difficult and require a lot of effort, and then it gives you various tools and strategies to help you succeed. Many tools will not be right for you, but others will be more to your liking. I found the sections on identifying and managing triggers very helpful, and tips like setting a reminder on my phone to be frequently reminded not to yell, or involving my son in the project, worked well for me. It was very difficult at first, and I had to start over many times, but now I am deep into a yell-free period, and my son thanked me for doing this (the best reward). I also found it cathartic to read about someone else's struggles and guilt over this issue.

A great book, full of wonderful ideas to help you bite your tongue. It is such an easy habit to get into yelling at your children. The book is full of colours and handy little summaries and tips. There is also an online community to help you with your progress in this book. I have read several parenting books but this one was very honest and refreshing and definitely one of the best. The author shares several honest accounts of her own struggles. I would recommend this to any parent who struggle with getting angry at their children sometimes.

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I didnt really like the blog style 30 day challenge writing. I would have liked it better in a traditional self help book format. Also the author writes a lot of self deprecating things in a "I did this, aren't I horrible?" style. Know your audience... we are reading this book because we all do that too. Leave off the "aren't I horrible?" (we know that part) and just let us ruminate in the familiarity and then read your tips and solutions.I wish there were more books on parental anger especially with special needs kids. It's a long exhausting slog and really wears down ones' resilience.

Un libro maravillo. Un testimonio personal de una mama que da consejos e ideas para lograr dejar de gritar a nuestros hijos. Un gran soporte que ayuda y te acompaña. A mi me a resultado de gran ayuda y doy gracias a sheila porque ahora siento que si puedo lograrlo. Me siento muy contenta de haberlo comprado!!!