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The Defining Decade is a groundbreaking guide that emphasizes the importance of your twenties and provides practical advice to maximize this pivotal decade. With insights from experts, it encourages readers to take charge of their lives, make informed decisions, and build a fulfilling future.

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The Defining Decade has changed the way millions of twentysomethings think about their twenties—and themselves. Revised and reissued for a new generation, let it change how you think about you and yours. Our "thirty-is-the-new-twenty" culture tells us the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. In The Defining Decade , Meg Jay argues that twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation, much of which has trivialized the most transformative time of our lives. Drawing from more than two decades of work with thousands of clients and students, Jay weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. The result is a provocative read that provides the tools necessary to take the most of your twenties, and shows us how work, relationships, personality, identity and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood—if we use the time well. Also included in this updated edition: Up-to-date research on work, love, the brain, friendship, technology, and fertility What a decade of device use has taught us about looking at friends—and looking for love—online 29 conversations to have with your partner—or to keep in mind as you search for one A social experiment in which "digital natives" go without their phones A Reader's Guide for book clubs, classrooms, or further self-reflection

Review: Read the book, but don't forget to read between the lines. - I'm not usually one to review books on here (I think plenty of others do, and do a great job!) but as I came to this page to purchase yet another copy of this book to gift a friend, I found myself browsing through some of the reviews and had to respond to some of the criticisms. In essence, I think some of the reviewers here have missed the point entirely. (One criticism that I do agree with is that the book is heavily focused on the American 20-something experience, yet I do not fault Jay for this--she is an American psychologist, has likely treated predominantly American clients, and is writing for a largely American audience. The "early life crisis" of the 20-something that can't decide on a career is a far cry from the issues faced by their peers in impoverished or warring nations, or even those that are similarly developed but culturally distinct. That said, just as I, a 20-something American woman, wouldn't pick up a self-help book written for senior men, I wouldn't pick one up, for example, for those coming of age in China. It's not that one's better or worse than the other, it's just that only one applies to me. I don't think you can get angry about a book addressing the 20-something experience in America when it's written by an American author who makes no assertion that she's writing for a universal audience). 1) "This book didn't apply to me because I'm in my mid/late 20s and/or have my life together already and/or I already knew all the advice given." On one hand, I want to congratulate you, but on another, I think you might have fallen into the millenial trap of being narcissistic and blindly self-assured. Of course many people do graduate college, find a job in a related field, and transition into adulthood without issue. But I imagine that for every person following this path that winds up successful and content with their lives, there are a dozen that end up burnt out and disillusioned by 35, and are forced to reevaluate their decisions and start over. It's not just about choosing a career either--the book proposes mindful selection of friends, partners, and life experiences. With the top speed of modern life, it's easy to continue going through the motions without stopping to think about what you're doing. Even if you feel you're headed in the right direction, what is the value lost by taking the time to consider what you really want? (Also, if you really "have it all together" already, why did you read this book in the first place?!) 2) "It places too much emphasis on finding a partner/having children/living the traditional "American dream." There seems to be a failure of taking the information presented and interpreting the message as it applies to your own life here. The "hook up" culture of 20-somethings and the prevalence of domestic abuse are real issues in the US right now. Fertility is also a hot topic, with popular media generating this idea that ANY woman can get pregnant with a little work and hormone injections well into their 40s. Once again, this is about mindfulness, not following a prescribed path. Not interested in settling down with one partner just yet? Fine! But does that mean you want to jump from meaningless hook up to meaningless hook up without learning about yourself and developing an idea of how you'd like your adult relationships to be? Sure you're not ready for kids now, but is it something you see for yourself eventually? How important is it to you? The answer may be not very, and that's okay! The point is to actually THINK about it and be intentional in the choices you make. 3) "This is just one person's opinion, she does nothing to back it up." Honestly, this is just ludicrous. Jay integrates *peer reviewed literature* with her own clinical experiences and makes reasonable inferences about patterns in 20-something behavior based on them. You can disagree with the message, but saying that it's being pulled from thin air is just ignorant. 4) "This book was depressing because it made me feel badly about where I am in my life by my mid/late 20s or 30s." I understand that some of the information presented can be anxiety-provoking and can make you question your life choices--that's the point! Read the case studies of 20-somethings who were depressed and anxious in their dead end jobs and relationships, they all found a pathway to a more fulfilling life. Even if past the "sweet spot" of the early/mid 20s, this book can help you to understand the reality of beginning a career or a family later in life. If you're unhappy with your life and expect a pat on the head and a participation trophy, ("it gets better!") this book is not going to help you. If you're lost, unhappy, unfulfilled, or depressed about the state of your life, this book can help you to see these problems as approachable, and models the shift in thinking that will help you to design the life you want for yourself. But 250ish pages written by a psychologist who you haven't met will NEVER be a catch-all solution. I think this is an important book that those in their late teens or twenties would do well to read, and that older demographics could use to better understand how to support the growth of the 20-somethings in their lives. As with ANY literature, it should be read with a critical eye and with careful consideration of your own experiences, goals, and personal beliefs. The Defining Decade is not written to be a panacea for every struggling 20-something. It does go against the rhetoric 20-somethings are hearing and provide honest, objective examples of how and why taking action in early adulthood is important.
Review: Great read, great gift. - This book surprised me with how easy it was to read and how many insights it provided. I have given it as a gift to several 20-somethings in my life.

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| Best Sellers Rank | #16,038 in Kindle Store ( See Top 100 in Kindle Store ) #2 in Adulthood & Aging #3 in Sociology of Social Theory #4 in Psychology Reference |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Read the book, but don't forget to read between the lines.
*by A***. on May 18, 2015*

I'm not usually one to review books on here (I think plenty of others do, and do a great job!) but as I came to this page to purchase yet another copy of this book to gift a friend, I found myself browsing through some of the reviews and had to respond to some of the criticisms. In essence, I think some of the reviewers here have missed the point entirely. (One criticism that I do agree with is that the book is heavily focused on the American 20-something experience, yet I do not fault Jay for this--she is an American psychologist, has likely treated predominantly American clients, and is writing for a largely American audience. The "early life crisis" of the 20-something that can't decide on a career is a far cry from the issues faced by their peers in impoverished or warring nations, or even those that are similarly developed but culturally distinct. That said, just as I, a 20-something American woman, wouldn't pick up a self-help book written for senior men, I wouldn't pick one up, for example, for those coming of age in China. It's not that one's better or worse than the other, it's just that only one applies to me. I don't think you can get angry about a book addressing the 20-something experience in America when it's written by an American author who makes no assertion that she's writing for a universal audience). 1) "This book didn't apply to me because I'm in my mid/late 20s and/or have my life together already and/or I already knew all the advice given." On one hand, I want to congratulate you, but on another, I think you might have fallen into the millenial trap of being narcissistic and blindly self-assured. Of course many people do graduate college, find a job in a related field, and transition into adulthood without issue. But I imagine that for every person following this path that winds up successful and content with their lives, there are a dozen that end up burnt out and disillusioned by 35, and are forced to reevaluate their decisions and start over. It's not just about choosing a career either--the book proposes mindful selection of friends, partners, and life experiences. With the top speed of modern life, it's easy to continue going through the motions without stopping to think about what you're doing. Even if you feel you're headed in the right direction, what is the value lost by taking the time to consider what you really want? (Also, if you really "have it all together" already, why did you read this book in the first place?!) 2) "It places too much emphasis on finding a partner/having children/living the traditional "American dream." There seems to be a failure of taking the information presented and interpreting the message as it applies to your own life here. The "hook up" culture of 20-somethings and the prevalence of domestic abuse are real issues in the US right now. Fertility is also a hot topic, with popular media generating this idea that ANY woman can get pregnant with a little work and hormone injections well into their 40s. Once again, this is about mindfulness, not following a prescribed path. Not interested in settling down with one partner just yet? Fine! But does that mean you want to jump from meaningless hook up to meaningless hook up without learning about yourself and developing an idea of how you'd like your adult relationships to be? Sure you're not ready for kids now, but is it something you see for yourself eventually? How important is it to you? The answer may be not very, and that's okay! The point is to actually THINK about it and be intentional in the choices you make. 3) "This is just one person's opinion, she does nothing to back it up." Honestly, this is just ludicrous. Jay integrates *peer reviewed literature* with her own clinical experiences and makes reasonable inferences about patterns in 20-something behavior based on them. You can disagree with the message, but saying that it's being pulled from thin air is just ignorant. 4) "This book was depressing because it made me feel badly about where I am in my life by my mid/late 20s or 30s." I understand that some of the information presented can be anxiety-provoking and can make you question your life choices--that's the point! Read the case studies of 20-somethings who were depressed and anxious in their dead end jobs and relationships, they all found a pathway to a more fulfilling life. Even if past the "sweet spot" of the early/mid 20s, this book can help you to understand the reality of beginning a career or a family later in life. If you're unhappy with your life and expect a pat on the head and a participation trophy, ("it gets better!") this book is not going to help you. If you're lost, unhappy, unfulfilled, or depressed about the state of your life, this book can help you to see these problems as approachable, and models the shift in thinking that will help you to design the life you want for yourself. But 250ish pages written by a psychologist who you haven't met will NEVER be a catch-all solution. I think this is an important book that those in their late teens or twenties would do well to read, and that older demographics could use to better understand how to support the growth of the 20-somethings in their lives. As with ANY literature, it should be read with a critical eye and with careful consideration of your own experiences, goals, and personal beliefs. The Defining Decade is not written to be a panacea for every struggling 20-something. It does go against the rhetoric 20-somethings are hearing and provide honest, objective examples of how and why taking action in early adulthood is important.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Great read, great gift.
*by J***Y on August 11, 2026*

This book surprised me with how easy it was to read and how many insights it provided. I have given it as a gift to several 20-somethings in my life.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ and the like. With more sacred cultural cows
*by D***Y on January 18, 2015*

Within its covers I read much wisdom, and some folly. Overall I think the book is definitely a step in the right direction. The author minces few words while clarifying the importance of a person's twenties, distinguishing between a "should" and a goal, encouraging twenty-something's to "Do the Math", and the like. With more sacred cultural cows, like cohabitation and reproduction, she employs statistics in daring readers to face reality. For efforts such as these I applaud Dr. Jay's insight and courage. Yet, "The Defining Decade" doesn't go nearly far enough. Perhaps the book is a cultural accommodation that in venturing further would encounter outright dismissal. Surely it goes as far as the author can personally take it. In any case, Dr. Jay's failure to go the distance leaves us with a compromised work that, while it is quite helpful, leaves intact certain insidious mechanisms of personal agony, especially for women. Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotemeyer writes that women can't have it all. They cannot both primarily pursue a dedicated career and successfully raise a family. I can't agree more, but why regard risks to the latter posed by the former? Our culture's pan-sexist confusion about family and career shrouds a fundamental truth: Wifehood and motherhood are a woman's highest, common earthly opportunities for fulfillment and happiness. Nothing else comes close, and only women can possess them. This truth puts the components of a woman's life in perspective, especially career. An illusion of beneficial human control if furthered in the chapter entitled "Every Body." It opens with a feminist's claim that "The management of fertility is one of the most important functions of adulthood." Today's efforts are actually veiled grasping at self-gratification, self-creation and the elimination of death. Many foolishly strive to create fertility where it cannot sustain, live forever and grant primacy to pleasure. Yet, these pilgrims remain miserable while all of us remain not God. With human reproduction timing is everything. Yet Dr. Jay's "management" is contradictory and confusing. For example, she notes that female fertility peaks in the late thirties and is 75% less at thirty-five. Meanwhile, throughout she cheerfully implies, if not explicates, the favorability of pregnancy in the mid-thirties. Are not at least women's bodies telling us that the vast majority of pregnancies should be occurring within a few years of the peak? Dr. Jay and the cited feminist theorist are likely ignorant of the prescient wisdom from a 1963 source. In Humanae Vitea Pope Paul VI lays-out the pitfalls of human fertility management and predicts the consequential injustices thereby perpetrated against women. Read it and see how so many of his predictions have come t be. In some cases we do well to turn to older texts, especially ones that are much older. Again, Dr. Jay does our drifting culture a great service. Still, a fuller happiness can only be realized via more, higher and older truths than what she offers.

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