Reconcilable Differences: Rebuild Your Relationship by Rediscovering the Partner You Love--without Losing Yourself

This is one of those books that changes the way you see things forever.A clear-eyed analysis of how couples function (and don't function) over long term relationships.An absolute must read in my opinion for anyone serious about something that lasts, or didn't have good examples growing up, or that is in a troubled situation.(If you like this book, I would also recommend Passionate Marriage by Schnarch.)

The wife and I are still reading it but have gained understanding of each other

This book is probably good if you know nothing about relationships. My husband and I were reading it just to keep in our toolbox and we were both so bored that we stopped about halfway through. I’m a voracious reader, this was just very dry and very basic.

The work that these authors do is life changing. This book will allow you to see your relationship problems from a new perspective, a hopeful lens, and gives practical options for dealing with these problems. I cannot recommend this book more highly.

Distant feeling--categorizing behavior, as if we all were some variety of dog-breed: "Oh, you're a setter--you must like birds!" Come on--there have to be more kinds of people in the world than five!

An excellent explanation of the causes of conflicts in relationships, how they cause damage, and ways to understand and minimize their toxic effects.

Great read with your spouse if you are in a blended family

Going through this book with my fiancee. We are getting married in June

This books is quite dense, and pretty slow going but incredibly insightful. I laughed out loud several times when I recognised myself in the descriptions of conflict patterns. I have read lots of relationship books and I found this particularly helpful in understanding patterns and understanding how your patters and those of your significant other interact to create the problems you are faced with. It helps you to move away from judgment of yourself and your partner, into a place of understanding, clarity and motivation to become more willing to be accepting and to request change where necessary.

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Purchased for a friend. Hopefully it gives her some clarity

Atendeu perfeitamente minhas expectativas, objetivo, nao demasiado sintetico e muito util. Recomendo para profissionais e para as pessoas que tem problemas de casal.

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