No More Mr. Nice Guy! Audible Audiobook – Unabridged

Wife perspective...***My husband has seemed to hit a heck of a rut in life lately. I can't get through to him and it seemed like he was trying to go about things in unhealthy ways that, from what I see, wasn't helping. This all has been happening these past couple of months and frankly I was getting hurt and pushed away no matter what I tried to do to help him. One night after googling what he has been going through, I found out that he was a classic 'self shamer'. Down to the T. In one of the articles I read, this book was mentioned so I looked into it on here. I ordered it right away and although my husband was reluctant to even go near this book, as he felt what good what come from it, I began reading out loud to him from the book. Just getting through the first chapter had him hooked and wanting to know more. He's not much of a reader, so I've still been reading out loud to him which I feel has helped us both. He can see what he is doing, and I can know how better to help him. He still isn't fully out of his funk, but at least he has agreed to go through counseling to help get back on track because of this book. And while I'm still feeling down and lonely because of whatever he is going through too, at least it gives me a little hope that this book will work.As I said, I'm just a woman, but if your partner is feeling like theyre getting no where in life, or that they feel as if they have basically failed at everything, then read this book. If you see them struggling, read this book because it has a lot of insight of what is going on. And it can even help you.

SoWhat I liked-COMPREHENSIVE PLAN.In this book, Dr. Glover gives a very detailed and thorough plan for recovering and kicking the "nice guy syndrome". This plan will 100% work if you execute it.-CUTTING TRUTHmany sentences and descriptions in the book left me openmouthed, swearing under my breath, and even in tears once. This book can see right into the soul of the Nice Guy. The Truth about the way I lived life was a hard pill to swallow but one of the best things I have ever done-CONCRETE EXERCISESthe Book includes some 50 step by step exercises designed to make you happier, more attractive, stop seeking approval, and enjoy life-CURED ME OF THE NICE GUY SYNDROMEThe Nice guy syndrome caused some major issues for me mentally when I was younger. To be able to break free of old patterns and create the future as something new Is a something that will stick with me for a long time.What I didn't like-EXCESSIVE NICE GUY MENTIONINGthis book mentions the opposite of the nice guy the Integrated Male only ONCE. I really wished that the contrasted the two figures against each other to see how they handled different situations.Summary: No More Mr. Nice Guy is a book for almost every man in this day and age. If you are intruiged by the concept, buy the book. It is something you will not regret.

I’ve got 4 feet of self-help books on a shelf. Most of them half read. This was the one I needed. I’d like to say I wish I found it years ago, but the truth is I probably wasn’t ready years ago, but “When the student is ready the master appears.” This book has in a short space changed how I approach my life; it’s taught me how to (and why I should) express my point of view and desires in work and personal relationships more directly. I now find something remarkable happens when I state my case clearly, I save all the energy I used to put into trying to “juggle” and turn things into what they weren’t and never could be, It made me aware of how I took for granted the state of emotional starvation I lived in, and how impossible I thought it was to change that. I learned how to admit and define my position in relationships. The title of the book suggests it’s going to turn you into a self centered aggressive a-hole. I found the opposite to be true, I found it let me open up to the love that was already around me but that I had been holding away, because I thought I wanted something else. I was ready for this book and it’s brought me new levels of peace and freedom. Many thanks Dr. Glover.

Reading this book saved my life. Actually that was just chapter 1.It was a punch to the gut and a knee to the face all at once. The book reads like it was written about me and for me. I've been called a "Nice Guy" all my adult life and never understood why that was a problem. I've been called needy and clingy. Didn't understand that either. I am 48 years old and finally understand what I need to do to change my life for the better.

This is one of the best self help books I have read. Perhaps because I was ready to hear what it had to say, or perhaps because it was just that good. The book clearly pointed out the underhanded ways I was trying to control and influence the relationship, all unbeknownst to me. The secret deals you make, or "covert contracts" as Glover calls them, were alive in my behavior and severely damaging the relationship. "No More Mr. Nice Guy" isn't about not being nice. It is, in fact, about being nice...but being nice to yourself so that you can unburden yourself from the shackles of your past and start working towards the life you have always wanted rather than towards the life you were programmed by your past to want. It explains why Nice Guys really aren't all that nice and clearly demonstrates how changes in behavior can dramatically transform your relations in a very positive way. While I've only finished this book about a week ago, I'm already noticing the positive aspects in my life and improvement in my relationships. This is not only true of my personal relationships, but also true of my relationship with myself. That said, this book, to a large extent, could also have been named "No More Ms. Nice Gal" since there is a lot that women could also learn by reading it, no only about the man in their life, but also about themselves and their relations.