THE PROPER CARE AND FEEDING OF HUSBANDS: What Successful Marriage is Really About

In the past 50 years books on relationships and marriage in the US and also to a lesser extent in the UK, have routinely blamed men for the majority of faults in relationships and marriage. The default knee jerk reaction seems to have been – he's too aggressive, not sensitive enough, is not (insert your adjective here) enough...you get the message.Women's wants, needs and priorities are seen as normal and indeed paramount, whereas the husbands' wants and needs are either mainly disregarded or not considered at all. No “equality” here then ?!Fortunately this book by well known relationship talkshow hostess Dr Laura redresses the balance and gives men and husbands a fair hearing.This is quite refreshing as we only usually get to hear the feminine side of the debate.Much of the book's material is taken from her talkshow listeners and emailers in the form of small case histories,which makes for interesting reading.Men's no.1 complaint about marriage is that their wives are too controlling of sex. As sex is the major way a man displays love and affection to his partner when this is refused (a fairly common event judging by these case histories) not only is the man sexually and emotionally frustrated he cannot show his wife love, the wife also loses out as she is in effect refusing her partner's love.Laura makes the point on several occasions that men are simpler creatures than women. That they almost desperately want to love their wives, all they ask in return is a little respect, consideration, admiration and physical love. If he is properly treated like a man should be by his wife, she will be amply repaid.Laura also gives many case histories where women are dismissive of their husband's economic contribution to the marriage,and what he does for the family and around the house. And wives often seem to "sweat the small stuff" by focusing on minor annoyances instead of seeing the bigger picture of a man who wants to love her, if he is allowed !This may be a sobering book for some women to read, as they see their controlling behaviors and disrespect they have shown their husbands highlighted in the numerous case histories that are mentioned. However as these cases show repeatedly,husbands are by and large prepared to forgive and forget, and Laura points out the relatively small changes that can transform a previously ho-hum marriage into one that is vibrant and alive.

I haven’t even finished the book yet but this was the book I’ve been looking for. I was reading Laura Doyle Empowered Wife book and it seems she actually stole her concepts from this book and author and sugar coated them.Dr Laura’s no BS approach is not only refreshing but it’s truthful and realistic. It’s encouraging without the fluff. Sometimes us wives need to be called out for our part that we play and she does just that. I love having this new perspective and it’s drastically changed my mood, attitude and as a result my home and relationship. I’m actually highlighting through it to come back to chapters.This is a book I would give to friends, family planning to get married and I’d gift it to my daughter when she gets married one day. My only regret was not getting it sooner. 100% recommend if you’re looking for a book on marriage aimed at women and you’re ready to do the work.

11 Dec 2019I wish I had read this book many years ago, before I married the woman who is now my former wife, or soon thereafter. I would have asked my then fiancee to read it with me, discuss the contents, and make decisions accordingly. Depending on her responses, it would have either ended our engagement, or made for a wonderful marriage.My ex-wife had bad attitudes toward me and men in general, a lack of comprehension and wrong thinking about me and men in general. This book could have spared me and her all that, and saved our marriage.Men and women, do yourselves a favour and read this book even if you're already married. Discuss it, and practice the wisdom and experience revealed in it. If you're not yet married, it will either end your false relationship, which is based on a lack of understanding of how men and women think (but of course you both think you're fine), or make for a wonderful marriage.If you both can't agree on the contents, and are unwilling to change your own selves and your wrong thinking about each other (rather than trying to change the other person), then DON'T get married to THAT person !You both deserve a good marriage, not a divorce or dead marriage dragging on for years (like mine did).Now I'm seeking re-marriage, and you can be SURE I will be discussing this book with ALL potential marriage partners. I owe this to myself and to them !

This book does offer good advice if you have not been paying attention to your husband or have 'lost' whatever made you get married in the first place. But if you have been doing the right things for the majority of the time & they behave badly anyway there are evidently other issues to resolve which may not even be yours. (Laura does mention this briefly especially regarding the 3 A's in her author's note). Nevertheless it should encourage wives to do their best and step back occasionally and look at what they are griping about as it is easy to get sucked into negative thought instead of being proactive. I'm sure we all do it when we are bringing up kids and find yet another pair of dirty socks, etc, etc. Balance this with Steve Covey's book 'The 7 habits of highly effective families' and you should have a good balanced mix. But if there is bad behaviour or any kind of illness or depression in a family you probably need to get outside help if being proactive, loving and positive does not help.

Wonderful book every woman and man should read and follow. Its time to get our acts together and realize the damage that is being done.

Ich würde sagen, der Ratgeber ist nur für Menschen (Frauen) die sich Dinge eingestehen können. Alle anderen können sich die Mühe sparen es zu lesen, da es so keinen Sinn macht und reine Zeitverschwendung wäre.

This is here to remind everyone of our fundamental needs in a relationship. We all want to love and be loved and somehow this gets forgotten in the modern world. Women can get so caught up in the mundane duties of life, housework, looking after the kids that they forget what it means to be a wife - gentle, sensual and nurturing towards their husband.Men don’t need another ‘mother’ figure. They need a wife, and when we are able to slip in and out of these roles, our man feels safe, powerful and will go to the ends of the earth for us. I understand this book may offend some people but if you’ve been having the same issues time and time again, nagging about your man not doing things around the house, helping out, or not giving you love and attention, try a different approach, be tender and playful and see if it works. If you want change, one person only has to try something different. let that person be you.

This book is one of my absolute favorites! The most I learned in a book abt relationships and abt my husband. Real life couples examples, husband's pov on regular life stuff was quite insightful. I would recommend this book to anyone interested in a heartbeat!

It helped me to shift my focus and priorities in marriage to making marriage work for me. I certainly am better off having read the whole book. It took me a long time to get through it because i am not used to reading this style of qiving loads of examples(which Dr. Laura gets from her show and the letters she receives).