I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age

I really like how clear the book is in regards to tips and examples. I can flip through it to find the specific information I need for my relationship. My partner and I use the talk about it sections to work through our relationship since we aren't going to therapy right now and it has really helped us understand each other more.

As a therapist myself, I always wonder how much information I’ll gain from a “therapy” book. The answer with this book is A LOT. Liz’s book was essentially a summary of nearly all attachment and relationship theories learned through my clinical education in an easy to read format (at a much more affordable price!). To my knowledge, there is not a single book that is more all encompassing. The compassion, passion and non judgement Liz utilizes in therapy practice, come through clearly in her writing style.The book itself is broken down into essentially the parts of therapy; 1. Assessing (what is happening? What do we want to happen?), 2. Connecting (How do we make it happen?) 3. Growing (let’s go make it happen!). My favorite part of the book is that it is interactive. Every single chapter is built to help bring you closer to yourself and your partner through reflection activities and ‘talk about it’ activities. While the information is so important, it’s more important that you’re able to connect that information to your relationships (with yourself and others). These activities really help accomplish that goal.Actually, I have two favorite parts. I LOVE THAT THIS BOOK IS NOT HETERONORMATIVE. Thank you Liz for bringing representation in literature.Liz’s book is a MUST read for any human who has a relationship with another human or desires to (so everyone).

I wish I could give this book more stars. I have been praying to God for a guide - a guide that can answer all my relationship issues to also teach me how to be better and do better for all aspects. It's woken me up, shown me both glimmers and triggers, and catapulted me into healing. I am eternally grateful to this author for sharing this information with us for only $14. I am constantly recommending this book to my friends. I strongly believe every individual, couple, and partner can benefit from this book. My partner and I take one day a week to walk through the "talk about it sections" and it is teaching us a lot about one another and showing us what matters. It's not easy at all, yet it is worth it. Let this book be your guide and help get you back into healthy relationships and patterns, whether that looks like you and your partner doing the work together, becoming better, and growing closer, or it looks like it's one sided work / its just not going to work. By the end of the book, at least your path will be clear.Sending love and healing to all reading and purchasing this book. Have a safe and beautifully messy journey as you make your way through "I want this to work".THANK YOU EARNSHAW for saving people $1000s on therapy for working through their relationship by writing and publishing this book - much love.

So far in the first chapter I am blown away by Dr. Elizabeths clarity in being able to speak so clearly and describe so many situations i have found myself in with my partner. It is encouraging and refreshing to have her explain we are not the only ones in countering these topics! Ha! Seems silly but i definitely recommend to anyone seeking to change patterns they have grown up with.

I read this by myself as someone going through divorce. Unfortunately it was already too late for this marriage, but it's well in time for whatever lies ahead of me. This book is an easy read, almost felt like I was in a therapy session. It has so much information crammed into a relatively small number of pages. It doesn't rehash and reiterate concepts over and over (except the 3 R's, which are of course important). It has a nice cycle of teaching and and providing breathers (reflections) to journal out, talk over ideas, or practice with yourself or partner. It visits concepts that may be new to some like childhood traumas and attachment theory. Its versatility and idea density make it a very valuable tool to add to your kit. Would recommend to anyone in any type of relationship, whether it is in turmoil or green pastures. Will increase your awareness of self, and of your partner's bids for attention/connection. Thank you for your time and effort, Liz!

I have read many books on relationships, but what I love about this book the most that it clearly lays out all crucial elements of relationships, its phases, patterns, mindsets that support a successful relationships and those who destroy them and many more. On top of that, it gives practical solutions and examples of language that you can use to have conversations with your partner and what to do when things don't go as we would wish. Truly comprehensive, very deep; takes you on a journey from every day interactions and their impact to transcendental experiences and how impactful they all are. Finally, it beautifully explains how the purpose of why we get into relationships has changed overtime and how relationships are still the most meaningful element of our existence. Highly recommend.

Great content. However there are several pages with fuzzy, bleeding type, which is extremely distracting and make certain paragraphs/pages hard to read. I would like a replacement copy, but don't want to send back the one I'm reading. Can't see where to request that. Again, great content.

I ordered this book when my last relationship was ending. I thought we could work through the book together. I loved Liz’s 365 Love Lessons work and knew I would benefit from her book. The book was released two days too late but I read it anyway!It is very well written, with great templates and prompts for discussion. It was hard for me to go through because I saw how much it could’ve helped my relationship. I look forward to applying this knowledge in future relationships and plan to read and reread often. Highly advise you go through it even if you’re single!

- recommend book for everyone- length was fine- explanations were helpful- changed my perspective- you get actually good advice

Great book, draws together many theories and neatly wraps it all up in a deeply moving way. Opens up the reader's eyes to the complexities of relationships and how to deal with them in an interesting format.

This book breaks relationship dynamics down and helps me understand how I can show up as a better partner. I love how inclusive it is and how much I’m reflecting on my past experiences. As a single woman, it’s helping me visualize the type of partner I want to be in my next relationship. Easy and informative read. Highly recommend.

I could not put this book down and finished it within a week of receiving it. I’m now going back through to work on the reflections and i didn’t expect the activities to help me so much in getting to know me better. Cannot stop recommending this to everyone!