Hold on to Your NUTs: The Relationship Manual for Men Kindle Edition

This is a book about how to let natural masculinity develop instead of fighting it. An unstated premise is that for many men, it is not possible to be themselves, with the gender behavior that would be natural, because they were taught that to be a masculine man is to be a bad man. There are bad men of course, and because bad men have resisted socialization, they have masculine traits as well as bad traits. That most people can't tell the difference between what is masculine and what is bad is why this book has valuable information for everybody, men and women.The author spends more time describing solutions than describing the problem, which is rare in this field and highly commendable. I only did not give it five stars because of two small points (and four and half stars is not clickable). First, the author is not clear in the discussion of NUTS (non-negotiable unalterable terms) about how to avoid a NUT that limits or oppresses other people. Of course the author and most readers know the difference between a guiding principle for oneself and a power and control move, but it does not come out strongly in the discussion. Secondly, the process of growing nuts is seen in terms of ideas, images to live up to, and consciously-willed steps. This could lead to 'just' a slightly more sophisticated attempt to 'act like a man'. To truly grow nuts, it is perhaps also important to work with feeling (sensation), desire, and energy because growth is an unconscious process for which the will can only provide the conditions (and then get out of the way). The author does strongly encourage readers to join a men's group, and perhaps that is how the more visceral part is managed.

I liked this book because it was simple to read, direct and honest with opinions that seemed very sound to me. There was no overly masculine bragging or bravado, just real mature, sensible talk. The real failing of the book though it that it tell you what you should do in principle but does`t give enough examples of how it is applied in the real world with your woman. For example, it will say not to defend your inner principles (aka N.U.T.S), but I think there is not just one fine line, but many fine lines between not having to defend your inner principles as they who you are and make you the man you are, but there are many fine lines.To be fair, the author gave some examples and they were good, but he should have given more. The cynic in me thinks that the author might have done this to lure you into his website for more tips on how to manage your inner principles and in the website, you pay primo dollars for his service. But make no mistake, if he is as sincere and good as the book, it could be a game changer for some men. Definitely give the book a look if you feel you want to be more of a man- a good man- not a Bruce Willis, or Stalone make believe man, but a real man in the real world.

I coach guys. My work with them is often two part. One part: letting go of old habits (too much internet, binge watching, gaming, gambling, etc.) The second part is creating a life that REALLY interests them. A life that they are passionate about and that connects them more to their heart and soul. I recommend this book to the men I coach. Wayne has a great way of talking to men that is honest, clear, and authentic. I recommend this book for every guy that wants to live and create a life that works better for himself. I also recommend this book for women who want their men to be stronger and a better men. It has been my experience that everyone benefits when a man is a strong man. This book continues to assist me be a better husband, father, and man because I continue to ponder Wayne's wisdom.John J. HrubyCreativity Coach and author, Space Spiders on Prom Day

This is a quick read and immensely helpful. Give it a try. You will find it was well worth the effort.

This is an enjoyable book with a few good ideas and thoughts. It was an easy read and had some funny quips. My issue is not the quality of the book (which was okay) but the fact that it was not what I was hoping to find. It was, in my opinion, another book that basically says that the problem lies with the man and that he simply needs to make his woman happy. While I'm all for making my wife happy, I've come to realize that these books are not providing real insight, experience, and advice on simply being a man. It always inevitably comes down to "making your woman happy" and that we, as men, are broken, it is our fault, and that we must do all we can to make our women happy.Problems? Not happy? Not feeling good as a man? Want to know how to be a better man? Well, the answer is that as men, we are broken, and that we simply need to accept that we must please our women.For a book that claims that you have to hold firm to your convictions, it sure also tells you that you need to cowtow to your wife and sure hope that she accepts you if you try hard enough. I think the purpose of doing this is so that women might read these books, obviously endorse them and say that this is the way to her heart and her opinion of manhood, and buy it for her man.

This book is accessible and repetitive, which is good for learning new habits. The way it's organized makes it easy to tackle- I read it in one weekend. As a woman my take away is that men's relationships with other healthy men is crucial. Men need quality time with other actualized men. If a man doesn't have his brotherhood, it's a red-flag warning sign. I'd like to see the author's thought evolution process after all these years. Where's book #two?

I liked that book. It was insightful but after 2 chapters it got repetitive and I wish it was a better. I got something out of it but I wouldn't recommend to anyone. This is a good working approach to being a better man though.

Hold onto your N.U.T.S. is an excellent read and workbook for anyone looking to find focus to themselves.

OK but it feels a bit light on techniques to develop the most important part of the book: N.U.T.s. Not really an encapsulated takeaway book that you could use completely on it's own. It seems to focus on developing other skills which are all well and good but not the very one it is promoting that every man should have; their fundamental non negotiable principles. The intention is there but the book left me feeling a bit "meh" in regards to actionable items.

I've worked in the field of helping Men build healthy relationships for five years. This is one of my three go-to books because it offers a simple and unique perspective. It helps men set solid priorities in their lives and stick to them. It helps them learn to let go of the need to be right and argue for the sake of arguing. It also reminds the reader that if they want a healthy sexual relationship, they have to take responsibility for keeping romance, seduction, and attraction alive in the relationship, which is something 99% of the Men's books out there seem to miss.The think I love most about Hold On to Your N.U.T.S. is that it offers practical exercises. Many books for men are full of theory, ideas, and helpful framing, but they fall flat when it comes to helping Men actually make a difference in their lives.I often lend or gift copies of this book to my coaching clients.

Grabs your attention with the title and entertains throughout the whole book. Speaks to men about relationship issues in a direct manner that one cannot deny but yet is not offended to hear. I studied this book for personal and professional application. A book I would like to have written.

This was one of the most important books that I have ever read. A must read for any man that wants to improve himself into a great man.

Purchased this for my son. Great man's book and his spouse, too. My son is the sort who would get value from it.